Monday, August 17, 2015

Seattle to San Francisco and back again, flying standby with three little kids!

*I promise to update with better photos*

In March 2015, the kids and I still planned to head to the Philippines for 10 months.  We hoped for the kids to experience daily life, school, family and language immersion in Bacoor, Cavite.  Ray, the kids dad, also happens to be Canadian – Filipino – American.  Yup, he is a citizen in all three countries!  Thankful, the kids can be too!  I'm so jealous of them. :)

Considering a 10 month trip to the Philippines, getting them recognized as citizens of the Philippines was a priority and we needed Ray recognized as a citizen again (that’s a post on its own!).  That said, the Philippine consulate closest to our family is in San Francisco, California and they do not answer the phone or return calls.  How the heck to get through to them?  Seriously.  I don't have an answer.

Philippine consulate in San Francisco (Union Square).

We decided, we better show up at their door step for answers.  Great, what? wait! but that’s expensive for a family of five!  We used hotel points and flew standby to afford this.  So, in the attempt to get the kids and their dad (Tatay) recognized as Philippine citizens, I flew standby (on my own) with an 8, 5 and 2 year old.  Ray would fly standby later on.
 

Kids at SEATAC airport in Seattle, hoping to get on the next flight!

 
 
For those who may not know, flying standby is where you fly withOUT confirmed seats!  I think it sounds totally fabulous in theory and I am so grateful for it; however, in practice with little kids, it can be a stressful!  If the flight is not full by the time the gate closes and seats are open (in our case four seats) then, on we all go last minute.  If the flight does not have seats, you wait for the next flight.  Fortunately, for us on our way to San Francisco we were able to get on the first flight we waited for and all of our seats we in the same isle (bonus!) SO THANKFUL!!!  (More on flying with kids, when their seats are NOT near you on your flight.)


Noodles at the SFO airport! So YUMMY!


 
After arriving into the San Francisco airport (SFO) the kids and I ate Japanese style noodle dishes and then headed out on the BART toward downtown San Francisco!  The BART is a reliable public transportation option in the bay area that runs directly from the airport.  Again, sounds easy but wow so hard with small kids and luggage! 

The boys (2 and 5) were exhausted and both fell asleep on the BART and Maya was fading too, so asking her to help beyond her backpack was just cruel.  I thought, this is okay and I had planned for this situation.  No panic, no problem, right?  So, on the 2 year old goes into the carrier / sling and the 5 year old goes into the stroller.  Mom has backpack #2 and small roll around – not easy but not impossible!  I’m feeling good.

  
Who's ready to take on BART.  Oliver (age 2) after a short flight from Seattle!



We arrive at our station and on the map we are only 0.2 miles from our hotel.  To the BART elevator we go to get from the BART station to street level, ONLY TO FIND THE ELEVATOR IS BROKEN… WHAT?!  After asking around we are told no elevators are in service.  Seriously?  Okay, so no problem, up two flights of stairs with (backpack, luggage, child in stroller and toddler in carrier) we finally arrive at the street level and 0.2 miles from our hotel.  I'm so tired at this point but feeling accomplished. 

At the hotel, I feel an immediate sharp pain in my neck from taking the stroller going up the stairs and am sick.  I stayed in that state from a pinched nerve until the next day.  So extremely glad Ray made it in that night.  It was the sharp kick in the pants (neck) I needed to take care of an old injury (more on getting strong to care for kids).

The next day, I am feeling much better (yes!) and off we all go to the Philippine Consulate.  The trip was not as fruitful as we hoped but we knew leaving with citizenship for all was pretty darn low!  Still, we had two days to enjoy San Francisco and we definitely did.  We stayed at the Marriott Marquis and the kids enjoyed the pool and Yerba Buena Garden, which we could see from the hotel window.  It’s across the street from the hotel, big and felt safe.  We were blessed with really good weather and the kids played at the park a fair amount. 

Trader Joe’s is nearby Yerba Buena Garden, as well as take-out restaurants, a large food court that looks over the garden, a variety of shopping and even a Target.   We choose eating at the park often as it was a much less stressful event than going to eat at restaurant.  Our kids are very active ADHD, SPD kids. Our youngest is often suddenly overwhelmed and noise, smells and waiting can make any toddler upset. 
Nearby, the Marriott Marquis / Yerba Buena Garden are other options for families that we didn’t see but would have if weather was poor.  The Children’s Creativity Museum would have been our top choice with our age group.  We saw many galleries our oldest would have enjoyed and the Contemporary Jewish Museum.  You can also never go wrong with a pool in a hotel.  Our crew has traveled extensively since the birth of our daughter and a hotel pool  has helped us with jet lag, feeling sick, needing to burn energy, relax, and a safe place to meet new kids and adults.  We always hope to find a place with a pool!

Our high energy, spirited little folk wanted to see China Town and the waterfront during our time!  Having kids with high energy is great, as they walk and run all over the city.  However, they do crash so we always kept the sling or little stroller and sling with us to provide a break for them or a place to nap.  We also always keep easy to grab, healthy foods for them to avoid blood sugar crash!  Apples, nuts, oranges, brown rice, seaweed, avocado and more.  Healthy snacks help the adults too!


San Francisco China Town!
Oliver (2 years) guarding the sidewalk with his new bamboo sword.  Months later this is still a favorite!

We spent one day walking from our hotel to Union Square before heading to the Consulate near Union Square.  Union Square was under construction and not really a great option for small, adventure seeking kids.  From here we walked to the China Town area and found all sorts of shops that were a total hit with the kids and affordable compared to the rest of the city.  We found food and grocery items for much lower cost in China Town compared to near our hotel.
 
The next day we wanted to see the waterfront and collect bamboo swords for the kids.  We walked again from the hotel to China Town before continuing on to the North Beach neighborhood of San Francisco.  The kids enjoyed Washington Square Park in North Beach as they had a playground and lots of kids.  I found this to be a very family friendly area with diverse ethnic backgrounds and multiple languages spoken.  I see online the park has a poor review for bathrooms but the day we were here they were preparing to open a brand new bathroom facility the very next day.  Fear not families, you'll find it friendly here!


Maya (age 8) attempting to capture bubbles near pier 41.  Free fun!  We'll take it!

From Washington Square Park, we walked to the waterfront area of Fishermans Wharf (pier 41 area).  There are many options for play here.  Sculptures, a toy store (which had a large mechanical bubble making machine), and the sea lions were a huge hit too!  The bathrooms near pier 41 are super nasty and no place to change a baby!  Walk north a couple piers to find places to change baby. 

By 3:30 pm our kids were wiped out and we took the bus back to the hotel.  We brought a foldable stroller and put our youngest in a carrier.  IT WAS PACKED ON THE BUS!  We walked away from the direction the bus was running, to get on the bus sooner and get a seat.  This might seem counter-intuitive but by getting on the bus sooner, we got to the last couple seats.  The five of us were squashed into 2 seats and the boys passed out (again!) and our oldest loved seeing all the people and sights.
Sculpture on the waterfront.  More free fun!

On the standby flight the following day, we could not get on the first couple flights.  Eventually, all five of our family get on the same flight.  YES.  We arrive into Seattle later than we expected and we have 5 exhausted family members.  Happy to be home but very tired.

A few hours later, our daughter has her 2nd clonic – tonic seizure.

Our lives are not the same.  One seizure is not good but doesn’t mean you’ll be epileptic.  One seizure and an irregular EEG, for her meant Rolandic and 90% chance of growing out of this.  Two seizures and an irregular EEG, now we learn to face to epilepsy as a family and make permanent changes.

We had been staying on the modified Adkin’s diet for our kids to support our child that had been diagnosed with Rolandic epilepsy.  With all the traveling, yummy noodles, fried food and easy access to non-Adkins foods, we left the diet one meal a day for this trip.  It had been 2 months since our child’s first seizure and we believed she would be in the major and not have further issues.  That is not her story and we hope your family can gain from ours as we learn too. 

I'll be doing this trip again later this month.  If anyone has questions or items to research, let me know!

What our family learned from this trip, that I hope others can benefit from:

 -  The stroller / sling carrier was effective in carrying around all those kids and luggage!  Yes!
 
 -  China Town, the waterfront piers and parks provided great space for our high energy, seeking kids and at NO cost!

 - Roll around luggage was a huge benefit!  Our 5 year old was pushing it around until he fell asleep. (Darn, cozy BART)!

- If you have a nagging injury, it will present itself at the most undesirable time.  Take care of yourself! 

 - Regular sleep and good food is a important for epilepsy.   We went off the modified Atkin’s diet for this trip.  We know we could not prevent the path our child went down but for our own self-care we wish we had keep with it on our trip.
 
 
 
 
 

Friday, July 31, 2015

Introduction / Who am I (We)?


Introduction / Who am I (We)?

 


"The Abueg's"
Who are we?  Good question! Our story is just beginning so I can only give you what comes to my heart today and then reserve the right to change this in the future as we grow, shrink, travel, and learn.  Oh, and before we dive in, both parents are engineers by training… so any grammar issues seen here, please forgive (read please forgive me Mariah and Michaela Abueg). J
 
 
 
The kids reading.
 

Our current family is 5 in total.  We have two adults, Ray and Nicci, and three kids.  The kids are 8 (Maya), 5 (Ashton) and 2 (Oliver) years old (today).  With each kid, we move into a smaller home!   So, today we could fit into the “tiny house” movement as we move into a 790 square foot home in the Seattle area and have been in a 720 square foot home at the Pacific Ocean.  We split our time between our tiny homes.  We could also be homeschoolers, unschoolers, or worldschoolers.  I personally like worldschooling because it feels the least “defined” and I don’t like fitting into someone else’s defined box! We have kids with special needs, which I myself am still accepting and adjusting to.  Most importantly, we are a God centered family.  A big part of our lives is finding ways to travel.  I will be blogging on traveling a great deal (I hope).

Ray biking with the boys in tow at the ocean!  Wish we could do this in Seattle, but way too many hills!
 
 

So, yup, we love traveling.  One or more of us have been to Canada, around the US, Korea, Singapore, Philippines, Guam, Europe, South America, Mexico.  We have hosted international students from all over the world and have gained so much from them.  If you ever get the opportunity to host internationally, do it!  I’ll post more on this and links to agencies with good reputations in the Puget Sound / Seattle area.

Kids hanging out at our first campsite we "boondocked" at!  It's impossible to get them all to look over. 
 

After our entire family went to the Philippines in 2014 we decided to enroll the older two in 3rd grade and Kindergarten at a Montessori just outside of Manila.  After applying and working on Philippine citizenships for the kids, we were dealt a pretty big blow.  Our oldest daughter started having clonic-tonic seizures (aka grand mal seizures).  We were initially told, she would likely never need medication and would outgrow this.  Unfortunately, that isn’t her story, we didn’t move to the Philippines and a different adventure awaits in the meantime.
 

What!? I got them all looking! Hiking in a remote area of Washington State.





 
Flash forward 3 to 6 months from the initial clonic-tonic seizure and we’re at Children’s Hospital in Seattle regularly and desperate for answers and solutions and our daughter.  During this time, our daughter has a rare form of epilepsy (ESES) and we’re struggling to manage life daily.  I am reminded of the “Footprints” poem where the man dies and looks back to see two sets of footprints in the sand over the course of his life except when he needed help the most, there is only one set of footprints.  As I’m holding my daughter in the hospital again, I know God is holding us.  I cannot stand on my own any longer. 

 

Okay, this is deep and I promise more links to what our family has experienced in hopes this helps other people.  Maya is graciously allowing us to talk more openly about her condition.  I hope others can gain from her story.  I know I have gained more from her than I could have ever expected while holding her as an infant.

 

Back to attempting travel with young kids!  My daughter has a serious form of epilepsy and has medications daily.  One of the medications is hard to find, we cannot mess around with not having access to it and need to make sure it stays at a specific temperature.  However, she is looking more and more stable, yes!  Out of the woods?  Maybe not yet but back to worldschooling  and embracing life we attempt to go!  The 5 year old has an irregular EEG (more on that) and the 2 year old is highly likely sensory processing disorder (SPD) and their regular doctors believe the older two have ADHD.  After a 6 month wait for SPD support from the University of Washington, I’ve learned enough by reading and caring for my kids to believe I can do this and still travel!  Go Nicci! J

 

Okay, so Nicci is primarily on her own with traveling and schooling for these kids, since someone (read amazing Ray) has to work full time and uhhh, well health insurance is pretty darn important currently!  So, we are doing small trips until late Spring 2016.  Keep up with our travels (even day ones) on a link I will insert (HERE)!

 

If you got this far, thank you!  I’ll be updating as often as I can with worldschooling, traveling with kids and life with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), SPD and epilepsy.  Much love!

 

Nicci Abueg (and family!)